I remember the time when it became clear that I wasn’t going to be able to avoid brain surgery. When I need to keep going even though it’s tough. It adds to my resilience and self-reliance when life gets tough. But more recently, I’ve been inspired to cultivate another quality I’ve discovered in myself, in addition to that: my fighting spirit. We can choose not to be discouraged, not to give in, not to despair—at least not for too long. It’s how Batman’s father consoles his son when he’s had a setback. You don't need anyone bringing you down. I used to see myself as a survivor—able to bear great pain and live through the suffering until things got better. And when she’s too weak to be there in the real world, she’s there online, writing and sharing her beautiful reflections about life. It’s an acceptance of what’s happening to you. Recently, I’ve fought more than ever before—and consciously so: I’ve fought for living the creative and passionate life I am called to live. Know that your ‘failed’ attempts are the stepping stones that will ultimately lead you to where you want to be. My mother always says to herself, when facing a difficulty, “Who’s the boss here—me or this challenge?” She’s experienced hiding under her desk as a schoolgirl when the bombs fell during the war. So next time someone does you wrong, pray for them and mean it. She lived through leaving her homeland to start a new life in a foreign country. I’m obsessively worried about past people coming back to hurt me. When I had to undergo neurosurgery to remove a brain tumor, in my forties. When adversity strikes, we are faced with a stark choice: We can either let it beat us. I learned what I could about my tumor and my surgery. MY BOOK IS AVAILABLE: http://bit.ly/daring-to-take-up-space. She knows that adversity can only really beat her if she lets it. Or not. Otherwise, they wouldn't be set on bringing you down, understand. if people are bringing you down they are just big fat ass holes. Sending Love to Everyone Who’s Doing Their Best to Heal…, Tiny Buddha’s New Mindfulness Kit: Less Stress, More Peace, How to Stop Obsessing Over What Other People Think of You, How to Stop Over-Apologizing, From a Lifelong Over-Apologizer, 14 Daily Happiness Habits to Adopt Right Now, How to Set Healthy Boundaries and Protect Your Space and Energy. This is a radical operation, and I was terrified of its risks and what it might do to me. Ask yourself what you can learn from your previous attempt. My fighting spirit is a useful string to my bow of life skills, and I shall be forever grateful for the experiences that helped me discover and hone it! We all have to face fear, pain, and harshness in life. This was one of my methods for getting stuff done when I worked in the challenging and fast-paced world of management consulting. GET MORE FUN & INSPIRING IMAGES & VIDEOS. I have a friend who has had a most debilitating, not clearly diagnosed illness for years. The fact that the surgeons were going to cut into my brain—the center of my consciousness, my thoughts and my reasoning, my story and my memories—made my fears a thousand times worse! For keeping my gallbladder when I developed a gallstone. So if you’re struggling, too, ask yourself: In what ways, however small, can you keep showing up? For my mother, who got diagnosed with Motoneuron Disease in her eighties, to have a dignified last phase of her life. No matter how positive we are, how healthily we live, or how much kindness, generosity, or fairness we practice, sh*t happens. Equally, you might not resolve a complex and challenging situation in one day. If you’re going through hell, keep going. Sometimes we need to let ourselves be sad, down, or angry before we can find an appropriate response to what happened to us. Don't let people bring you down....enjoy life. Marie Kondo, exactly what I want to do for 2015, declutter and get rid of stuff. Sooo, if they put you down, that must mean they're trying to make you think that they are the strong one. “Don't let them win. IG: @daniellkoepke. And I got alternative health support from hypnotherapy, homeopathy, Ayurveda, and even angelic healing! When life piles on the challenges, and you’re pushed to the edge, where and how do you find your fighting spirit? Don't let the weak, ugly souls of those kind of people, work their toxin in you...You know YOU ARE a better, stronger and more mature, more dimensional person than they are. And I watch in awe, as, time after time, she makes a conscious inner decision that she won’t. It may take several attempts to find your way through. Don’t let it beat you. I’d be friendly, charming, great to work with—but I wouldn’t go away until the work that needed doing was done and people had made the contribution that was necessary. Yet she makes a point, always, to show up, whenever possible, in whatever way she can: to work, to choir practice, to family activities…. My colleagues used to joke that I could be like a dog with a bone. To all of us. You’re a warrior, and you’re stronger than anything life throws your way.” ~Brooke Davis. When adversity strikes, we are faced with a stark choice: We can either let it beat us. The content on Tiny Buddha is designed to support, not replace, medical or psychiatric treatment. These strategies help me when I don’t want to give in to the temptation to throw in the towel too soon.