It saves a great many unnecessary outlays. Most people think of the day, rather than marriage itself. Has anyone gone through this and have any advice? I know many people who have fled in the courthouse or had a very small ceremony, and then shortly after, or even a year later, they have a bigger ceremony. If you cannot afford a big ceremony, it seems more appropriate to call it an engagement party, or even a vow renewal, if you can afford a bigger ceremony later and want to do that. We had all that we wanted and all the people were cheering for us. Your courthouse ceremony would be your legitimate wedding date. What you are describing a year and a half later is a celebration of your marriage. Wedding comes on a huge expense. I just don't understand why it has to be a secret? Have the wedding you can afford now or whenever you want to get married. I appreciate the input and hope no one is judging me for this. Wir und unsere Partner nutzen Cookies und ähnliche Technik, um Daten auf Ihrem Gerät zu speichern und/oder darauf zuzugreifen, für folgende Zwecke: um personalisierte Werbung und Inhalte zu zeigen, zur Messung von Anzeigen und Inhalten, um mehr über die Zielgruppe zu erfahren sowie für die Entwicklung von Produkten. You would be upfront with the person performing the ceremony that you are having a vow renewal. We decided to get married that spring but we had to delay it for the next year. Remember a wedding is just a party. Hello. I say just be honest. Then, they use the money they will need to pay for a wedding a lavish honeymoon. I marry people all the time who have been married before hand. So yes, people will know. If you want to get married outside England and Wales you will need to follow the procedure of the law in that country. Thinking you should be able to do this is a very entitled attitude and is a huge part of the issue with society today. A couple party to share with people who both love you and care about you. aus oder wählen Sie 'Einstellungen verwalten', um weitere Informationen zu erhalten und eine Auswahl zu treffen. If you won't be able to save more money in the next year and the BAH sounds good, then go ahead and get married now in a courthouse or a garden JOP ceremony or whatever. Almost EVERYONE is "paying for their wedding themselves". We chose to get married now for several reasons (some of which are financial as well), but we aren't telling ANYONE. My future husband has visa considerations he has to make and so we need to go ahead and have an elopement. Yeah. to fulfill the timetable and most or all of the pre-planning needs to be considered. If a couple has been married in a Register Office, the partners can have a religious marriage ceremony afterwards. In a very small marriage ceremony, you can make plans without forcing everyone you know to follow your every whim. People aren't stupid. The people who came to us were pretty gift. We were on the move out of state process, our situation was different. You may later have a bigger, more festive edition, because it can take several months for cost, location, catering, flowers, cake, wedding dress, band etc. So that's not a valid point. I know that this is a hot topic for some. Wedding comes on a huge expense. Our thing was, we donât want to put our marriage on credit so we didn’t. We specialise in fun and off-beat candid wedding photography and cinematography. My husband and I had married in the courthouse. The characters written do not match the verification word. What you are describing a year and a half later is a celebration of your marriage. 2020Â© Sam Arroyo. Thank you all for your responses. I was thinking of doing the same thing. We also did not want any presents, because we no longer lived in the town. Dies geschieht in Ihren Datenschutzeinstellungen. Why is it a secret? Sie können Ihre Einstellungen jederzeit ändern. Call a spade a spade and label it a vow renewal and tell people you're married, OR wait and actually have the wedding you've been planning. Do not get married on the DL. Otherwise we would get married tomorrow if we could afford to have the wedding we really wanted. FH (er, I guess DH!) to attend your vow renewal, and I'm sure not bringing a gift to a vow renewal.